Quanada, A Possible Change in Heart

Since I became an MRA, I gained interest in looking into the subject of domestic violence against specifically male victims. This town has several shelters, uniquely it has two dedicated to men only. However, only one is dedicated to victims of domestic violence. In 2012, after my encounter with Quincy’s court system, I realized how much the system abused certain resources put in place to help victims against abusers. I started down the rabbit hole, and reality hit…hard.

I looked up the local domestic Violence shelter in town, Quanada. The first thing I noticed was how it used female pronouns to refer to victims and of all the pages on their site, there was only one male pronoun and it was only there to say that men were held in separate locations when compared to women. Yet, the only location Quanada gave on their site was the female shelter. In 2013 I finally decided to question Quanada. I called them up and asked where men were held. Their answer was absurd. If a man was to find help, they referred him to the Salvation Army… as if they hadn’t already thought of that.
This wasn’t fair, men had to call the shelter or go to the shelter to even find where to seek help. In my mind, this meant the possibility that your abuser would find out what you were up to and you’d be screwed. In early 2014, I went to the local community college because I knew I was bound to find something there. I went into the women’s bathrooms and found plaques in each stall that referred women to Quanada, it also had stickers on paper towel dispensers that were hard to miss. Every plaque said, “You deserve respect”.
I sent my boyfriend into the men’s bathrooms, they were RIGHT NEXT to the women’s bathroom. The only thing that separated them was a wall. The only thing he found were statistics and ways that the young men could help women. There was no information on how they could help themselves flee. This I realized was a good example of sexism against the male gender.

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Women’s Bathroom At JWCC in 2014

Men's Restroom

Men’s Bathroom At JWCC 2014

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Men’s Bathroom At JWCC in 2014

Quanada Plaque

Women’s Bathroom At JWCC in 2014 (every stall)

Due to my ignorance of proper procedure, I created posters that informed young men using the bathrooms what was in the women’s bathrooms, along with factual information that men are victims at the same rate. And for the last line I put, “let Quanada know you deserve respect too”. These posters didn’t last too long due to posting them illegally. However, something must have happened, because we visited the same bathrooms, the statistics on how to help female victims were gone! Sure, there wasn’t anything on how to help themselves, but they weren’t encouraging the young men to stick their necks out while they went with nothing either.

Before I could do anything further, life hit me and I had to focus on my family. It wasn’t until a few weeks ago that I was free from the burden of extreme responsibility that I decided, using the old information, to check up on what actually happened at the Salvation Army. I was surprised to find out that nothing was happening there, they didn’t know what I was talking about. Of course, I was skeptical in believing that they didn’t have a clue as to what I was talking about. I specifically asked, “Who is the overseer of the Male Domestic Violence Program?” . I was given reference to the name, Heidi, and so I two days ago I visited Hiedi in the pursuit of answers. She claimed that and I quote, “If Quanada sends people here it is strictly because they are homeless,”. She insisted that they played no part in the Domestic Violence program. So I was forced to go back to where I had started.

On Tuesday, February 23, 2016, I looked up Quanada’s Domestic Violence Program Director and decided to make the phone call. Jennifer Vancil, I found, had been given this title only a year and a half ago. It was no wonder I went a complete circle, because since she has taken this position a number of things have happened. I practically interviewed her over the phone:

1. How often does Quanada see male victims or men who claim to be victims?

Reply Summation: Depends, male victims don’t come forward as easily, but there has been a definite increase of males that do come forward.

2. How often does Quanada gain males simply seeking regular shelter due to homelessness?

Reply Summation: Quanada only deals with Victims of domestic violence, so if anyone is seeking shelter simply due to homelessness, male or female, we refer them to domestic violence.

3. Who is the overseer of the men’s domestic violence program pertaining to battered men?

Reply Summation: If they’re a victim of domestic violence, male or female, they are housed here. I don’t think it would be fair, they’re all victims. Everyone does counseling together male or female.

4. Is there a program for male batterers? If so who runs that project?

Reply Summation: We don’t oversee that, it’s a paid program run by Steve Swink

5. Are there any programs for female aggressors?

Reply Summation: That’s something Quincy needs to work on

        As you can see, 2014 was a major turning point for the Quanada website. Just by comparing the old website to the new one, you can see the difference. All pronouns referring to definite genders are gone. But it doesn’t necessarily mean the bias is gone, no. The only pictures that are on the website are souly of women and children. They don’t necessarily break away from the old statistics, they don’t have any fund raisers that create awareness for specifically male victims. All I am saying is that it is a progressive move forward. Being that the last few few words of our phone conversation ended with, call me at any time, I have hope. So cross your fingers people and listen, because opportunity knocks softly.

Quanada in 2013

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Changes Made to Quanada Website

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Welding Class

I am the only woman of 12 students, but it has been a great experience. People told me things like, “you’re wasting your brain” to discourage me from doing it. However, it comes to show how ignorant most people are about this course. The amount of math you must know is not thought of. Nursing today is considered a ‘hard field’ and Pele suggested I take it instead, but it wasn’t for me. I tried explaining to many women where I work, including a ‘smart’ nurse that stick welding was nothing more than basic electric theory. However when I tried explaining it was like completing the electric flow in a circut , they acted as though I was speaking a different language.

To believe that welding is nothing more than dumb people performing manual labor is an insult to the intelligence of the men and women who do it professionally. I found that most people believe the men to be stupid and encourage women to not do such things because they’re ‘better than that’ aka more valuable while men are disposable.

I knew the risks before I everapplied, the toxic fumes, radiation, third degree burns, skin cancer, along with the possibility of blindness and hearing loss. I admit reading all that made me scared. However, getting past that part I found that I was relaxed while doing it.

I did my first stick welding only a few days ago, I messed up a few times. Got the electrode stuck and scared myself a few times. But in a few tries, my teacher brought one of my classmates in. The guy had been working with the stick all week. He said, “Did you do that?” I just answered yes. Confused as to what they were talking about, it was my first day doing it. He looked back at the teacher and the old man just smiled. My classmate knew our teacher liked playing around so he said, “You guys are playing with me, he did that,” but I insisted otherwise. He just goes, “okay prove it” so I did. I found out that I was a natural. but the moral is, don’t let anyone talk you out of what you want, you may come to find that you were made to do it. Men and women alike need to quit listening to society’s standards and start following through for themselves. Men need to start thinking about what they want, women need to be encouraged to look into manufacturing, because unless they try it they’ll never know how much they’d love it.

I took a test that looked into my interests career wise before I could get state funding for it and manufacturing received a 6 out of 15. A test isn’t sufficient enough to point you in the right direction. Women need to take more risks and try new things,  men need to start taking more risks with their own interests in mind.


Summation of the year 2015

I held a walk in meeting, this is the very late update of how that meeting went:

I got up, got dressed, got the information I was going to present together and a binder of paper with my laptop. There were several strips that were missing on the fliers I put out. Even with the missing tabs, no one came between the hours of 9am to 12pm that Saturday. There could have been various reasons as to why nobody came. I like to keep that in mind. Besides, before I do have another meeting I feel the presentation at that meeting should be better planned out.

I have been collecting Data on Order of Protection cases from the year 2015 by Gender:

In this very long and not yet finished study, I collected Data from the website of local Adams’ County Court Records to compare the outcomes of Order of Protection cases through out the year. This data includes the gender of petitioners, their defendants, the name of the judges in the cases, and the outcomes of the petitioned orders. If a gender of either the petitioner or the defendant could not be identified they were struck from the data as to not distort the outcome. Same-sex petitioner/defendant cases were not struck from the data. It should be completed by summer of 2016.

I have caught the interest of the Madonna House:

I  made the Madonna House aware that their fliers were not being distributed evenly through out the local community college. That the school was only placing the fliers in the women’s restroom even though there was a significant olive branch within the flier towards Men. This was corrected and the fliers have been placed in the Men’s restrooms. Whether the school has continuously re-posted in the Men’s Restrooms, I’m uncertain due to my busy schedule.

I have gained a few people’s support:

One smoke shop (supporting the freedom of speech), one laundry mat, a mechanic’s shop, and the public library (PLEASE NOTE: the public library does not openly support my views so much as it supports the freedom of speech!).

I backed the kickstarter fund of “the Red Pill Documentary” it wasn’t that much but every dollar counted and I’m happy I contributed! It should be out this year!!

Over all it has been a good year. This month I will start courses towards becoming a certified welder. This will give me the stepping stone I need to both support my family AND support my activism comfortably. I will also be able to get closer to my target audience, as over 50% of welders are males. Since I am a woman, it will not only grant me financial opportunity but I will have an easier time finding people with my same views. After working at least a year in female dominated environments, I’ve seen disgusting things when it comes to many political views. I’ve come across:

  • A woman that believe torture was justified in 99% of the innocent civilians in Iraq (she couldn’t see that not only was it against the constitution, but was a war crime which made us just as bad as the Nazis) but she didn’t care.
  • Several women that debated openly whether to have more children so they could get their income tax when their older children left.
  • Women that openly laughed and joked about cutting up their boyfriend’s clothes, burning them, and destroying their possessions such as putting his xbox in the toilet.
  • A woman who debated how to lie to her husband about being pregnant with a child that wasn’t his so she could get child support.
  • Women openly talking about getting fake pregnancy tests so they could trap the guys into a relationship.
  • A woman that sneaks her boyfriend into work, manipulates clients and the other women who cover her.
  • A woman that believes in the “teach men not to rape” theory, though she believes we should teach everyone not to rape… that made me back off pretty quick.

These are just a few of the things that come directly to my mind when I think of what went on over the past year working in a mostly female environment. It’s very uncomfortable.


Walk-In Meeting Has Been Planned

I’ve taken advantage of the study-rooms at the Quincy Public Library, I have booked a room for the North Study Room for November 28 2015. People interested will be free to walk in as they please over a three hour period, spanning from 9am to 12-noon Saturday Morning.

This should give anyone interested flexible hours to show up and talk. Being that it is booked nearly a week or two in advanced, people will have time to plan for the future. If there happen to be more than 4-5 people interested, I will try to book a larger room. This is merely a strategy to get as many people as possible. Fliers will be posted at several locations to widen the net of who is interested.

Gender is not discriminated against, both males and females are welcome to join considering that women have seen the pain of their sons, grandsons, boyfriends, friends, and husbands. We welcome women who are concerned for their male family members.

Hope To See You Then,

Cora Newbold

Madonna House Fliers Posted

Around three months ago, I sent an email to John Wood’s “Dean of Student Services and Registrar” describing my concern about the lack of information available to their male students. Madonna House was now offering their services to homeless males, but their fliers weren’t within male reach.

From: Cora Newbold
Sent: Tuesday, July 21, 2015 3:47 PM
To: Leah Benz <lbenz@jwcc.edu>
Subject: Your Bathrooms


I was concerned about the information or lack-there-of, located in your bathrooms. There are fliers and plentiful information in the women’s bathrooms, however, when searching for any information in the men’s bathrooms there are nothing more than information on how to wash your hands correctly.

There are plaques for Quanada, Fliers for the Madonna House both claim to be organizations that help both men and women, yet there is no information in the mens’ bathrooms.

Is it the organizations that request where these items are placed? Do you have any say in where these items are placed? Please know, that without sufficient information and awareness to males, there is no point in making the claim that these organizations are helping males.

However, I simply want to know if you are the responsible party for where these items are placed in the building.

This quickly followed with a reply:

On Fri, Jul 24, 2015 at 2:05 PM, Cody Baggett

Hi Cora,


Mr. Elbe’s office forwarded me your message below. As we discussed the other evening, I will work to make sure we have adequate representation of resources in both the men’s and women’s restrooms on JWCC’s campus.


I want to be clear that we do have programming to educate and provide resources both men and women in the areas that you expressed concern.


As discussed, we will continue to provide awareness opportunities to our community resources to all college participants.




Cody Baggett

Dean of Students & Registrar

After reading this, I waited for a few months before I re-entered the school to investigate if any changes had been made. Though none were made at that point in time, when I went back today, I had a surprise waiting for me.

screenshot-twitter com 2015-11-06 17-12-43 MensBRThe poster on the far right is in the Men’s Restroom. It’s a flier for The Madonna House even though it is described as a shelter for pregnant women and women with children, it is currently taking in homeless men. However, young men at the school wouldn’t have known to even look at the fliers or that the Madonna house was taking in males due to its history of only taking in women. This is why I talked to the school about getting the new fliers placed in the men’s bathrooms, how else would they get the information?

This probably doesn’t look like much, but this feels like a victory. Just realizing it took several months for this to get to this point is unbelievable, I didn’t realize how much time had flown by.



Movember is the annual event where the mustache is a symbol of awareness for men’s health issues. These issues include, male depression, Prostate Cancer, Penile cancer and other male related health problems.

Legacy Martial Arts in Quincy Illinois, held a “break-a-thon” this past week. School children had one minute to break as many boards as possible in order to raise money for breast cancer. Donations were made for every board that was broken, while there were also raffles for quilts made out of Legacy’s Martial Arts shirts.

I know the man who runs the place and have even joined him in his fitness class. My question is, will men be remembered in their time of year? I think instead of standing on the sidelines, ready to point my finger at them when they don’t, I will talk to the owner about doing something for Movember. The sad thing is, he probably doesn’t even know it exists.

I’m unsure how this will go, I don’t think many people actually request to raise money for things like this. It’s just not done for some reason. However, things need to change and change only comes for those who speak.



Quincy Police Department

I feel like I have made a great start towards turning this town into a town of true equality. Small steps forward are still, none the less, steps forward. In my attempt to move past blasting my opinions on social media, I have aimed towards making a difference physically where I am. I have recently contacted the chief of police in Quincy Illinois (my current residence), to bring up a matter I found was related.

The following is my letter sent to Mr. Robert Copley (Chief of Police) along with Fax Confirmation that it was sent/received:


Mr. Copley replied within 24hours, however due to certain circumstances I am unable to post his reply. Yet, when comparing the old page’s phrases with the new, I have found that they have been successfully changed with the suggestions into gender neutral terms. Keeping things gender neutral is extremely important. People can be convinced just through every-day reading of certain myths. Assumptions made on continuously hearing or assimilating the same dis-information, and based upon these assumptions create biased opinions even before knowing facts. They may have only been three sentences, but that’s three less in the support of a double standard.

I have chosen to keep pursuing this matter, the next step would be to try to target the State’s Attorney or the local Domestic Violence shelter, Quanada, into trying to make changes there. Stop Violence Against EVERYONE